There’s a pervasive and destructive belief that too many people with eating disorders struggle to shake off: the belief that they don’t deserve help, that they don’t deserve compassion, that they don’t deserve recovery. But here’s the truth: not one more person should feel this way.
Eating disorders are often tangled in feelings of shame, guilt, and worthlessness. The very nature of these disorders can create a distorted sense of self, making it difficult for those affected to feel like they are worthy of care, kindness, or healing. The world around us can further exacerbate these feelings, with unrealistic beauty standards, stigmas, and misconceptions that create a narrative where someone struggling with an eating disorder might feel “broken” or “unworthy” of love and support.
Every single person deserves self-compassion.
You are deserving of the same kindness and care that you would offer to a loved one in pain. Yet, far too often, people with eating disorders struggle to show themselves this same compassion. They may feel like they don’t deserve to take up space, to ask for help, or to put their own health first. They might think that because of their struggles, they are somehow less valuable. But the reality is, your worth isn’t tied to the number on the scale or the food on your plate—it’s inherent. You are deserving of recovery, no matter where you are in your journey.
Recovery is not linear.
It’s not a destination; it’s a process. It involves setbacks, small victories, tough days, and overwhelming emotions. But not one more person should feel that they aren’t deserving of recovery just because they’ve stumbled along the way. Recovery is messy, and there’s no “perfect” timeline. It’s not about being flawless, but about showing up for yourself each day, no matter how challenging. You’re worthy of getting the support you need, whether through therapy, support groups, or treatment programs. Not one more person should have to face an eating disorder alone, nor should anyone feel they are undeserving of a life free from the control that the disorder holds over them.
We need to recognize that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, but an act of courage and that not one more person should feel ashamed for seeking help. There is no shame in wanting to heal, to live a life where food isn’t a battle, where self-worth isn’t tied to weight or appearance, and where joy can be found in living instead of in restriction or fear.
To anyone reading this who has ever felt that they’re undeserving of compassion, help, or recovery—you are worthy. You are not defined by your eating disorder. It does not control who you are or what you deserve. You deserve self-compassion. You deserve to ask for help. You deserve a full, healthy life.
It’s time to shift the narrative.
Let’s break the silence, dispel the stigma, and ensure that no one feels alone in this fight. No one should feel that they don’t deserve to heal. Not one more person. Let’s stand together, not only in support of those struggling but also in affirming that everyone deserves to live a life free from the grip of an eating disorder.
Recovery is possible, and not one more person should feel undeserving of it.
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